Woman Says Husband Called Her ‘Childish’ After She Changed Her Mind About a Food Order

A woman says her husband “berated her” and called her “childish” for an incident that happened at their local mall — but Reddit thinks both parties are to blame.

The woman shared her experience on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum on Sunday, Feb. 10, explaining that she and her husband recently went to the mall to pick up his suit from a tailor. 

“As we were walking, we passed by Auntie Anne’s [Pretzels] and decided to grab a quick snack,” she wrote, adding, “As we approached, I mentioned that I wouldn’t mind having some hot dog pretzel bites, while he decided on the cinnamon bites.”

However, the woman noted that when she and her husband approached the counter, they were informed by the cashier that the next batch of hot dog bites would not be ready for another 10 minutes or so.

“My husband placed his order and asked if I still wanted the hot dog bites. I told him I’d decide after we visited the next store and that he could go ahead with his order,” the original poster (OP) wrote.

However, the Reddit user highlighted how “despite that,” her husband “insisted” on adding the hot dog bites to their order, “arguing that it was just a 10-minute wait.”

The woman shared that her husband then told the cashier to include the hot dog bites in her order, at which point, “I reiterated that I wanted to wait and asked the cashier to remove them.” She noted that the cashier, in turn, did not do so “immediately” and instead “looked to my husband for confirmation.”

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The woman then claimed that her husband continued to insist that she get the item, at which point she said she “looked him in the eye and firmly said, ‘I do not want them anymore.’ “

She wrote that she then, in turn, turned to the cashier and said, “I asked you to please remove them from the order,” noting that “at that point, she finally did.”

The woman said that after the incident, her husband “told me I had embarrassed him, called me childish and berated me before storming off for 30 minutes,” which she wrote was “all because I didn’t want to pay for something I wasn’t sure I wanted anymore.”

The original poster (OP) was met with a wave of commenters who said they believed that both she and her husband were in the wrong in the scenario — and that the only person deserving of sympathy was the cashier.

“We’re really gonna blame the poor cashier trying to do her job while this couple awkwardly argues in front of [her?],” asked one person, adding that they would “feel incredibly uncomfortable and unsure of who to listen to in that scenario out of fear of getting yelled at/argued with, too.”

“The cashier probably looked at him because it was his ‘turn’ to speak next and they needed to know if he was going to agree (and then they could proceed),” another user chimed in. “It’s not their job to decide who is in the right. OP and husband are both TA [the a——] for continuing to argue at the cashier’s expense (and the line’s expense).”

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Others said that the scenario brought back memories of their own time working in the service industry — and not in a good way.

“God I hated it when customers would argue and expect me to be the deciding factor. There’s literally no winning as a cashier in this scenario,” shared another commenter.